NO MORE PORN! GET OUT THERE AND HAVE REAL SEX!

Sleeplessness, ah sleeplessness . . .

So . . . what do I do when I can´t sleep?  What do you do?  Well, I was intending to write on this topic, but then I got sidetracked for a long time writing about Porn.  So, I changed the topic to the big “P” word.  Look for an article on Sleeplessness later on.  Porn Addiction is a far more interesting topic!

Here we go on Porn:

CONFESSIONS OF A FORMER  PORN ADDICT: I surfed porn, downloaded and watched porn videos from Emule, Googled beautiful women esp. Latinos, Chinese, Mongolian, First Nations, Russian, Canadian, Japanese, Vietnamese, Norwegian, Ethiopian, etc.  This happened when I had marriage problems with my first wife in 2001 – 06, and a little bit when I was single during 2009.  I am absolutely not proud of this, but it was a reality.  I sought porn to comfort myself from the pain and injustice I felt.  And my insatiable lust wanted to enjoy the view for an hour or so until it cried “Enough!”.  Total perversion, total evil.

And now? . . . I just enjoy married sex with my new wife.  And for those of you out there who say I´m an adulterer and have thus offended Yahweh and ¨lost my salvation¨ and will end up burning in Hell because I remarried – let God be the judge!  I made every sincere, albeit feeble at times, effort to reconcile with my ex-wife.  And too bad I hadn´t watched one of the only evangelical movies I actually respect: Fireproof, with Kirk Cameron (Check out the official website here, and an explanation of the 40 Days to Win Your Wife Back Challenge here).

I believe that I might possibly have saved my marriage at the point of break-up in Spring 2007 had I done those sacrificial things for at least 40 days.  My ex-wife wanted separation, but was not 100% convinced.  And I was angry, offended, cold and belligerent at the thought that she could betray me like that after 13 years of marriage.  Well, the rest is history.  I had finally overcome my initial anger over her leaving me.  By the time I was ready for reconciliation, she had already found a boyfriend.  Snooze I lose!

Having said all that, MEN: don’t surf porn!  And if you are trapped in that addiction at present, GET HELP!  Wake up!: porn is just as bad as alcohol or drug addictions!  Maybe worse: it takes over your mind and soul.  The images haunt you day and night.  And man, I don’t care if you’re an atheist: the activity of porn surfing KILLS your conscience.  You end up walking around feeling guilty and condemned.

And think about it: you are objectifying women, whom are created in the image of Yahweh.  That is, you are treating half of humanity as an object that exists only to feed your lust.  Honestly, IN THIS SITUATION WE ARE ALLOWING OUR STRONG FEELINGS TO CONTROL OUR MINDS AND CONSCIENCES!  Women are precious, wonderful beings.  How can we men dare cheapen them to the level of a sexualised object on a bright, flat screen.  And stroke our egos and body parts until we release ourselves at the site of women in the nude, posing provocatively, with sassy eyes and an innocent smile.  Or how can we watch videos of other men, with their manhood revealed to the world all over the computer screen, getting intimate with a girl who seemingly is enjoying every second of being victimised on camera?

Mama mia(!), sex is supposed to be a PRIVATE MATTER, not a 3rd Party Pleasure Rave, where sick minds control sick eyes, with your own hand replacing your wife!  Hey, have you had enough yet????!!!!

Better yet, go get out there, if you’re single, find a great girlfriend, get to know her, fall in love, grow in intimacy and mutual care for a few months or years, and then MARRY her.

After that, have enough sex to exhaust both you and her, and don’t complain!

If you take a look at the Durex World Sex Map regarding sexual frequency and satisfaction, you will find some interesting information.  Japan has one of the lowest sexual intercourse rates in the entire world.  And guess what?  Japan has one of the highest rates of Porn Addiction on the planet! In Japan, sex is everywhere – – except the bedroom!  The same article I quoted states:

. . . a recent survey by Japan’s health ministry found that as many as one-third of all marriages in Japan are sexless (!!!!!)

That’s not all, check out Psychology Today’s link page of articles on Internet Porn Addiction.  Some extremely interesting stuff in there!  Reports say that porn decreases your desire for real sex.  CAN YOU IMAGINE?  Our new, “wiser” modern society would rather stare at genitals on a bright screen rather than have REAL, PHYSICAL SEX with someone we love!  How mixed up is that???  Naomi Wolf wrote that “porn doesn’t whet men’s appetites – it turns them off to the real thing” – check it out here.

I don’t know about you, men, but I am not a robot.  I want real sex.  Not just to play with my WWW (wee widdle winkee) while staring at some breasts and groin of some chick who may be dead now, or fat, or married, or actually a man, or a Photoshop creation, or . . .

If you get a chance, read some Jacques Ellul or Neil Postman or Jerry Mander or Kirkpatrick Sale or Albert Borgmann.  Some people call them Technological Deterministics, but I call them Tech Savvy, because they were thinking way ahead of their time when writing about technology and its impact on society.  They are contributors to what academics call the Philosophy of Technology.  Indeed, pornography, abortion, questions of medical gizmos keeping people alive when they would otherwise die (and perhaps wish to die), etc. are often moral questions brought about by the introduction of new technologies to the world.  Man, when I was a kid, we had to run to the Chinese corner store or the 7-11 in order to score some porn.  Very difficult!  But now, hey, porn is one Google search away!  Perhaps we should renew it ¨Porn-Ogle¨ instead of Google!

To sum up, MEN, GET BACK IN YOUR BEDROOMS AND HAVE SEX WITH YOUR WIVES!   

And women, apparently 17% are addicted to porn, so hey, WOMEN, GET BACK IN THE BEDROOM AND HAVE SEX WITH YOUR HUSBANDS!

Or try the kitchen table . . .

or the hardwood floor . . . or your car . . .

or a sandy beach (hopefully with no one else on it!) . . .

or in the pool or sauna . . .

or on top of a mountain . . .

The possibilities are endless.  But women and men, get out there and, as the ubiquitous Nike ads said a billion times over: JUST DO  IT!

And ¨DO¨ meaning, yes, meaning HAVE SEX!

Amen, over and out!

For the endangered species we call “SEX”,

and for all you peeps out there,

and for the next generation (remember this cute little baby who may be the result of all your love-making, and whom you will have to train for the next 20 years?????)

Cheers,

Dimitri

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Hi, I´m Dimitri. I have lived in Turtle Island for awhile now, so my cultural understanding is slowly improving. Also, I can see things in this place that boggle my mind. Thus this blog...
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