“Carnegise “ Your Life

How To Win Friends and Influence People

By Dale Carnegie

Part One

Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

1.     Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain. (It rarely helps the situation)

2.    Give honest sincere appreciation.

3.    Arouse in the other person an eager want.

Part Two

Six Ways To Make People Like You

1.     Become genuinely interested in other people.

2.    Smile.

3.    Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.

4.    Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

(This is the secret to being a great conversationalist.)

5.    Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.

6.    Make the other person feel important—and do it sincerely.

Part Three

Win People To Your Way Of Thinking

1.     The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. (Because even if you win, you aren’t going to get what you want.)

2.    Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say, “You’re wrong.”

3.    If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically. (A good way to start is to admit that you could be mistaken.)

4.    Begin in a friendly way.

5.    Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.

6.    Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.

7.    Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.

8.    Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.

9.    Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.

10. Appeal to the nobler motives. (Even if deep down they make the decision based on the baser ones. Everyone wants to be the hero of their own story.)

11.  Dramatize your ideas. (A picture and a story are worth a thousand words.)

12.  Throw down a challenge. (Do this when all else fails.) 


Part Four

Be A Leader: How To Change People Without Giving Offense Or Arousing Resentment

1.     Begin with praise and honest appreciation.

2.    Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.

3.    Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.

4.    Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.

5.    Let the other person save face.

6.    Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.”

7.    Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.

8.    Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.

9.    Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

End notes:

The ability to speak is a shortcut to distinction. It puts a person in the limelight, raises one head and shoulders above the crowd. And the person who can speak acceptably is usually given credit for an ability out of all proportion to what he or she really possesses.


About sleepless in turtle island

Hi, I´m Dimitri. I have lived in Turtle Island for awhile now, so my cultural understanding is slowly improving. Also, I can see things in this place that boggle my mind. Thus this blog...
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